Is a midlife crisis really a bad thing?

A midlife crisis is a period of intense psychological distress that often occurs in adults who are in their late 30s to early 50s. During this time, people typically feel confused, lost, and overwhelmed by the changes that are happening in their lives. They may experience a deep sense of dissatisfaction and regret, worrying about their age and the time that has passed. They may also feel a sense of urgency to make some drastic changes in their life, such as changing jobs, buying a flashy car, even divorcing or cheating on a spouse.

This does not mean you are going crazy. Although it can feel that way sometimes. By the time we are about 35-40 our life may feel like we are running on a hamster wheel. But why?

As a child you didn’t consciously choose most of what you know in life. You didn’t choose your birth nation or state, your name, language, schools, diet, environment and so much more. All of this is chosen by your caretakers. They do the best they can in the circumstances they are in. They couldn’t possibly know what or who your soul desires to be in life. Plus, they are also living their life.

Most of us had caretakers with bills on their mind, groceries to buy and meals to make. They had jobs to perform, and those jobs consumed a lot of their time. The list goes on and on, leaving us fending for ourselves sometimes when it came to care, attention and soothing. All those considerations only scratch the surface of what could leave us, as adults, with unmet needs and desires. Then, we grow up and we start seeking out how to get those needs and desires met.

But what if we tried to seek out our needs and desires and we get embarrassed, shamed or rejected? We shut down that need or desire because we were made to feel it is unacceptable to have. In our brain, being accepted is part of survival instinct. So we shame that part of us that has been made unacceptable. That energy is left unexpressed and we stuff the feeling deep down. We are slowly being pushed to conform to what is acceptable in others eyes.

If we’ve had to do this a lot in life, one day all that energy will get too big to contain. We are forced to find an outlet. This may look like a midlife crisis.

So how do we start discovering our core needs and desires? Thats what many call a spiritual healing journey. Here are a few things you can do to connect back to your core authentic self:

1. Start by making self-care a priority. Taking care of yourself is essential to your spiritual healing journey. Make sure to get enough rest, eat a healthy, balanced diet, exercise regularly, and make time for activities that give you joy and relaxation.

2. Develop a meditation practice. Meditation can help you to become more mindful and aware of your inner self. There are many types of meditation you can explore, such as mindfulness, visualization, and mantra.

3. Connect with your spiritual side. Spend time exploring your spiritual beliefs and practices. Read spiritual texts, attend spiritual retreats, or take part in spiritual ceremonies such as tantra

4. Connect with nature. Spend time in nature, and take the time to really appreciate its beauty. Allow yourself to be mindful of the sights, smells, and sounds around you.

5. Practice self-reflection. Reflect on your thoughts, feelings, and experiences. Acknowledge and honor your emotions, and take time to process them.

6. Reach out for help and support. Connect with a trusted friend, family member, or spiritual teacher who can provide guidance and support on your journey.

By doing these things you’ll begin connecting more with your core authentic self as your journey unfolds.

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