Pleasing yourself goes beyond an orgasm or a physical sensation. These intimate self-indulging moments allow us to explore our bodies and connect with ourselves on a deep level. Each curve and ridge and dip are the keepers of powerful emotions and self-knowledge waiting to come out of you. But unlocking the information takes more than mindlessly pleasing yourself.
Being conscious during a session of self-pleasure tunes your mind and body to the same frequency. The experience is grounding and self-centering. With the right guidance and the right touch, conscious self-pleasure will enhance the relationship you have with yourself. So, let’s take a closer look at what the practice entails and how it can benefit your life.
What is Conscious Self Pleasure?
Not all self-pleasure is the same. Masturbation, for many people, becomes habitual, and it loses its sacred elements. We use videos and toys that take our attention away from our bodies, where there’s a constant opportunity to connect with ourselves.
Conscious self-pleasure is the act of taking control over masturbation by simply being aware of what you are feeling as you explore each and every part of your body–not just the sexual parts. The exercise is often paired with tantric breathwork–a breathing technique that activates the vagus nerve and enhances sensuality.
Think of mindful self pleasure as a way to bring the sacredness back to masturbation. Instead of racing to the finishing line, it slows the experience down and engages your entire body. Consciously touching yourself won’t just bring you pleasure, but it will help you understand your mental, physical, and sexual being in a healthy, spiritual way.
How Conscious Self Pleasure Connects You to the Inner-Self
Bringing Attention to the Now
Our minds love to wander. But every now and again, we need to realign and check in with ourselves. Conscious self pleasure puts your focus on what’s happening in the present moment. It’s a way to take your mind out of the past or back from the future so that you can pay attention to the current sensations you’re experiencing. By the end of the session, you’ll be full of mental clarity, self-love, and the feeling of being centered with yourself.
Finding Preferences
Sometimes sexual expectations prevent you from truly understanding your likes and dislikes. Conscious self pleasure gives you a safe opportunity to explore your preferences without any shame, guilt, or dirty laundry. It’s a time for you and only you, and that type of mediation teaches you about the self on a deep level. As you uncover the ways you enjoy being touched, it will also build the self-confidence you have in the bedroom with romantic partners.
Reducing Stress
Life comes with a little–or a lot of–stress. It’s all a part of the human experience. But if you don’t deal with stress in the right way, well, it can throw off your internal compass and do a number on your health and well-being. Mindful self pleasure is a natural way to reduce daily stress that calms the mind, lowers cortisol (the stress hormone) levels, and allows you to release built-up tension.
Getting the swing of conscious self pleasure is a learning experience–in the beginning, you might be surprised at how unfamiliar you are with your own body. But, hey, that’s okay! In my virtual sessions, I’ll guide you through the ins and outs of the mindful self pleasure experience. You’ll learn how to bring your mind and body together through touch and tantric breathing and connect with yourself in a way you never knew possible. Please feel free to reach out if you have any questions about the guided sessions!